“Wherever you are, be all there”
– Jim Elliot
Hello my lovelies!
Dating is rough. Fun, but rough. I am definitely not an expert by any stretch of the imagination, but my serial dating ways have really shed some light on the entire concept for me. In today’s post, I’m giving you five things I’ve learned from testing out the eligible bachelor pool, from very good, all the way to the not so good.
It’s a Job Interview –
I’m serious. Dating really is just interviewing a bunch of people to see if they’re worth hiring on to be your partner, and you should absolutely treat it that way. You’re a democrat and they’re a republican? They like pineapple on their pizza and you don’t? These are valuable interview questions to get through on dates and they determine which direction you’ll be headed with (or without) this person in the future.
Most of Them Are Going to be Just Ok –
Every date you go on isn’t going to be great or even just alright. Some of them will be absolutely terrible too. However, that doesn’t necessarily make you or your date bad people, sometimes you just don’t click. I went on a date about a month ago with who I’m sure is a perfectly nice human being, but a lack of shared interests and natural conversation made the date awkward at best, boring at worst. I’m absolutely down with the fact that this date was a bust, because I’m far more interested in finding someone who is right for me, and I have to be willing to take those chances on ok dates.
It’s Totally Fine to Date Multiple People –
Society as a whole has this bizarre notion, for women especially, that dating multiple people in a casual manner at the same time is somehow bad, when it’s not bad at all. In fact, I would highly encourage it. Why put all of your eggs into one basket right from the beginning? You don’t know these people and you don’t owe them your exclusivity unless it is discussed. Take it from someone who has been there, it is totally unhealthy to date one person at a time and risk becoming too invested too quickly. Plus, if men can do it, why can’t I?
Make it Worth Your Time –
You do not have to go on a date with that person who keeps pestering you about drinks if you do not want to. Maybe drinking isn’t your thing. Maybe you’re not as into them as you thought. The point is that a date should ideally feel like time well spent, even if it’s just ok like I mentioned earlier. You should be able to highlight one positive attribute about the experience, and if you can’t, it’s not worth the precious amount of time you have. Maybe the highlight was a great meal or discovering a cool new activity. No matter what, a date should be worth your time.
It’s Exhausting, but Fun –
Dating is one of the most stressful, nerve-wracking, and tiring things I’ve ever done. But I’m still having fun. Dating is a chance to be social, to discover new things not only about myself but the world around me, and it encourages me to break out of my shell more and more. Dating is NOT a walk in the park. It requires a lot of effort, planning, and vetting, so if you’re someone like me who is on the dating scene, I give props to you. We’re working our asses off to find someone who compliments us best and is pleased to be with our authentic selves. I know you’re frustrated, I know you’re dying for a night to yourself in your own bed instead of your 7th cocktail of the week, but you’re really doing all of that and you’re a complete dime for it.
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