Wedding Etiquette: Gifting Edition

Hello my lovelies!



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Today I want to talk about wedding gifts. In my opinion, that can be one of the biggest challenges of going to a wedding, even more so than trying to figure out what to wear. Thank baby Jesus for wedding registries. Today, I’ve teamed up with Zola, a website specializing in wedding registry lists, to help you solve the riddle of gifting for weddings.


Let’s get started:



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What to Give –

Generally, the wedding registry is set up to let wedding guests know what the couple would like most from guests. However, it is important to remember that gifts are not mandatory, and do not have to be the most expensive items on the list.

  • If you’re strapped for cash, you can always buy a smaller item from the registry, or go without. Trust me when I say that young couples nowadays are more than understanding of economic hardship. The most important part is that you showed up to celebrate the union of two amazing people!
  • If you are a part of the wedding party, or a close friend/family member, it’s always super cute to personalize a gift a little more than the other guests. Still stick with the registry, but if you’re feeling snazzy, personalize the item, or get another item to go along with the registry gift.
  • Unless the wedding registry has a way to accept monetary gifts, or the couple has specifically asked, actual legal tender is generally not the best way to go. Sometimes, being handed cash or gifts cards, especially from those you love, can feel a little impersonal and like they weren’t thinking about what you actually asked for. When in doubt, stick with a small item off the registry, if nothing else.



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When to Give –

There are a lot of “rules” when it comes to the moment of actually giving the gifts, but I personally think it’s a pretty simple process.

  • Purchase the gift from the registry either before or immediately after the wedding in question. Waiting too long can get pretty annoying for the couple, as they need to be able to sort out what they were given, and what they still may need. While you may have still sent them that awesome dining set, getting it a year after a wedding can mean that the couple has already moved on to purchase this item with their own money. Again, you don’t have to purchase a gift for the couple, but if you are, don’t be lazy!
  • If you absolutely have to bring your gift to the wedding or the reception, that’s one thing. But, if you have the ability to send it to the couple, I think that’s the better way to go. Imagine having all the grand kids over for Christmas, and the grandparents trying to one-up each other with who gives the best gifts. It’s not that that’s the point of a wedding, but not everyone can afford to give the couple that beautiful China set, and presenting your gift at the wedding can appear ignorant of that.



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How Much to Give –

Once again, you are not required to gift, but if you plan to, trying to figure out how much to spend can be pretty difficult.

  • A general rule is that the better you know the couple, the more money you are likely to spend.
  • Sticking with $200 maximum (again, depending on the relationship), is a reasonable  amount of money to use toward a gift. There are always exceptions, but you don’t have to blow your budget over a wedding registry.
  • Splitting the cost with others for a larger, more expensive gift is totally ok, as long as everyone is on board with their share. For my high school grad party, many friends and relatives of mine gave me monetary gifts to go toward a laptop, which made me super happy, and was also a great way to share the cost of something that is normally very expensive for one person.


That’s all I have for you guys today. Please remember to like, comment, and subscribe, it really helps me out. Also don’t forget to have a beautiful Tuesday, and if you’re in the market for a wedding registry, be sure to check out Zola!


Stay beautiful!



Disclaimer: I will never edit my pictures in a way that misrepresents my natural weight and body type. Some Links may be affiliate links. All opinions are my own

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